Posts Tagged "talented"

May’s 10 minutes of fame STOLEN by Blur

Posted on Feb 22, 2013 | 3 comments

May’s 10 minutes of fame STOLEN by Blur

It’s hard to keep a good girl down. Sure, I can say that I won’t let May work in television until she is 16 years old, but how do I stop her? When the Brit Awards come calling you don’t turn them away. Especially when they are raising money for the music therapy charity Nordoff-Robbins, that she attends and LOVES. Her music therapist phoned the other week and asked if they could film May. Clearly, the Brits had heard about her superior power of cuteness. I agreed. The filming went well. She made the cameraman cry she was so heartbreakingly adorable with all her bouncing, squealing and delight in the music. I’m in the States, so my husband sat down last night to watch her segment on the Brit Awards. Let’s review the evening through his Facebook status updates: There will be at least one person of talent and integrity on the Brits Awards tonight, I’m told. May was filmed in music therapy for a charity segment and will be on the box. See if you can spot her! Typical. I’ve avoided the Brits as if it were the clap for 25 years, and the one night I want to see it I’m stuck in a traffic jam on the M4 for an hour. Can’t believe it. Looks like May’s charity segment has been taken by Damon Albarn. (I won’t get to say that again). As soon as I track the footage down, it will be plastered all over any form of media I can weasel my way on to! Damn you Brit Awards! Damn you Blur! (Note to self: Maybe a career as a stage mom is not for you.) In the meantime, here are some photos of May in pigtails. Beat this, Damon Albarn, you washed up pop...

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Prepare to be shocked: gifted children are not disabled

Posted on Nov 6, 2012 | 27 comments

Prepare to be shocked: gifted children are not disabled

Here is what I discovered this week: there are A LOT of parents out there who, while accepting their challenges may be different, honestly believe that raising their gifted child is as difficult as raising a disabled child. A LOT of parents. Oh, and they don’t like to be told to shut up. I learned that too. Here is the opening of the post I wrote on BabyCenter called ‘Shut up about what a burden your gifted child is‘: Last week, the New York Times published ‘How do you raise a prodigy?‘ The article quickly dissolved into another “woe is me” piece about the burden of raising gifted children. The stunning realization that their child is “different”. The impossibility of filling their days with meaningful activities. The age old question: Should my child focus on classical piano or physics? You know: the hard questions that keep us all awake at night. These kind of stories appeal to parents who feel their child has talent (every parent, surely), and offend every parent, like me, raising a child of lesser abilities or – even worse – normal ability. It is far more offensive to those families since these articles are always peppered with the deep anxieties of parents whose greatest fear is that their little prodigy will be forced to attend school with normal children. God forbid that an intellectually superior child ever learn patience or tolerance or the social skills to work with us normal folk. After referencing his ten years of research, Andrew Solomon, the author of the article writes, “Prodigiousness, conversely, looks from a distance like silver, but it comes with banks of clouds; genius can be as bewildering and hazardous as a disability.” No, Andrew Solomon, genius is not a disability. It is not as hazardous as a disability, nor as bewildering. There is no equal to discovering your child won’t ever see a bird fly, or hear its chirp. There is no equal to wondering how exactly to teach your brain damaged child to feed themselves. Genius will not stop them from walking or speaking or raising their own family… (click through to read the rest) Here are some of the disturbing comments I received back. If you’ve read the article in full, you will know that many people wrote specific insults in about me, but I’ve left out those because they didn’t disturb me nearly as much as the idea that people actually believe their “gifted” child poses as much of a challenge as our disabled one: I’m surprised you wouldn’t have more empathy about those on the other end of the spectrum: incredibly smart, maybe, but just as ‘different’, hard to place, hard to know the right course of action for, hard to predict the future, etc. etc. I don’t think intelligence is a disability, most of the time… the real genuises and not just people who can memorize easily or something, are disabled by intelligence. I am a parent of a gifted child, and indeed do find aspects of it remarkably difficult, most particularly in that my gifted child is very aware of being different than other kids and struggles with that difference. I have no idea how the challenges we face would compare to the challenges that you face, and whose would be “worse.” Um… I do know whose would be worse. There is no comparison. This isn’t some kind of “mommy judgement” where I don’t understand the complexities of a gifted child’s life and the anxieties that come with that. This is the literally back-breaking reality of carrying my daughter up...

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